How to survive the non-city life
It's been pretty hard for me over here, the village is small and not many things are going on. Always the same faces, always the same gossip. Yes, people here gossip a lot. They know everything about you and you know everything about them.
I found a perfect site where you can find all the rules how to live in a small town. Let's check some of them:
1. Relax and take your time
People have their routines. They already have friends, activities and habits. Take it slow and be patient, social opportunities will come up. Don't try to change their routine and habits
2. Don't gossip
It's as I wrote before very common to gossip. Everyone knows everything about one another. Gossip can be traded like currency, who was with who, who slept with who, who is having business trouble, who said what. You will be challenged to not get involved, not to give your opinion. If you try to stay out of the gossip circle your are out of danger to have a relationship based on gossip and you will show yourself as a trustful person.
It's as I wrote before very common to gossip. Everyone knows everything about one another. Gossip can be traded like currency, who was with who, who slept with who, who is having business trouble, who said what. You will be challenged to not get involved, not to give your opinion. If you try to stay out of the gossip circle your are out of danger to have a relationship based on gossip and you will show yourself as a trustful person.
3.You're not a mind reader
Try not to interpret everyone else's actions as liking you or disliking you. Try to avoid it, let it go and don't waste your time worrying about what they said or why so and so.
Try not to interpret everyone else's actions as liking you or disliking you. Try to avoid it, let it go and don't waste your time worrying about what they said or why so and so.
4. Respect the locals
Locals have been here before you got here and they have a history which makes them seem irrational times to times. Someone hates someone else for something that happened 10 years ago. Don't judge and respect the historyeven if they are not over it yet, chances are they will never be.
Locals have been here before you got here and they have a history which makes them seem irrational times to times. Someone hates someone else for something that happened 10 years ago. Don't judge and respect the historyeven if they are not over it yet, chances are they will never be.
5. Stay busy
Find things you love (for example: relaxing near Soča river, watching sunsets, having a barbeque) with or without people. Sometimes it's lonely but if you have a passion there is no way to feel lonely and you can quickly find some other people with the same passion.
Find things you love (for example: relaxing near Soča river, watching sunsets, having a barbeque) with or without people. Sometimes it's lonely but if you have a passion there is no way to feel lonely and you can quickly find some other people with the same passion.
6. You meet and see the same people all the time
You don't need to be very extroverted to get to know people. In fact, it's a good idea to limit your exposure. You'll have unplanned interactions with people all the time, at the store, the gas station, main square, parties, activities, ... There is a finite amount of people. You may be able to build lasting relationships just from seeing the same person every morning or night.
You don't need to be very extroverted to get to know people. In fact, it's a good idea to limit your exposure. You'll have unplanned interactions with people all the time, at the store, the gas station, main square, parties, activities, ... There is a finite amount of people. You may be able to build lasting relationships just from seeing the same person every morning or night.
7. Be mysterious
It's a great way to meet no one. People want to hang out with intriguing people. If they believe you don't need them they will come calling and if they will think you are needy they will avoid you.
It's a great way to meet no one. People want to hang out with intriguing people. If they believe you don't need them they will come calling and if they will think you are needy they will avoid you.
8. Secrets will get out
Secrets have a way revealing themselves when given enough time. Avoiding the need for secrets, in general, is smart but if it's necessary to take the time to discover who you can trust first. You need friends. Hold off on being impulsive with classified information or behaviour until you know who is who.
Secrets have a way revealing themselves when given enough time. Avoiding the need for secrets, in general, is smart but if it's necessary to take the time to discover who you can trust first. You need friends. Hold off on being impulsive with classified information or behaviour until you know who is who.
Hopefully this list will help someone else than me.
xxxSCG
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